3 First steps to build your future relationship.

God wants us to prepare for the future today and not wait until tomorrow.

My Valentines day went something like this...Waking up texting my girlfriend, Tori while trying to take somewhat cute pictures of myself VIA snapchat. My hairs a mess and i'm never on top of my selfie game like she. With her being a 14 hour round trip away I surprise order her souffl├ęs, fruit and tea at the Panera so she can pick it up on her way into work. Cause Panera's her Favorite and its more predictable to find her there in the morning then most places. Then as the day ticked by we both grew tired of our snapchat game and laid down in our separate spaces states apart that night. I couldn't help but feel as if I was coming up short at 25 and a hint of loneliness. Actually it happens a ton. God has been teaching me throughout this season that its not just a place or time, but a training ground for the future. So many of us who are pursing love or want to someday pursue a spouse, can't help but believe that our current state is stalled until we meet our significant other or perhaps not even change until we are married. That isn't the example we see all throughout scripture. The future is 5 minutes ago. Heres 3 things i've learned throughout this process in preparing for your future even if you feel as if it is currently unachievable. 

Build Your Character

Songs 1:2-3 Let him kiss me with the kiss of his mouth for your love i is more delightful then wine. Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes; your name is like perfume poured out, No wonder the young women all love you. 

In previous culture fine fragrances were not as common as walking to your local Wal-Mart. Having perfume / cologne was a sign of wealth or power and people knew it by just you walking past them by them catching a whiff. The Bible sets the bar for our Name, Identity or Character as an expensive perfume. To be known without even stating it ourself that we have upstanding character. Building character is a fast track to preparing ourselves for marriage or a future relationship. How can you practice becoming a fine whiff of perfume?

Treat others better then they "Deserve"

You can't go into any friendship with the mindset that they don't deserve to even be treated with your kindness. That would end faster then cashing me outside trends. The best way to practice the character you are building is to go above and beyond for the men or women that are in your life. How could go the extra mile this week or show someone that doesn't deserve your love that you care. This is a prime way to prepare for that future or current relationships. When the day comes that you are privileged with someone special in your life they will never meet all of your expectations. It is perfect practice to start preparing to go the extra mile even when you don't feel like it. 

Grow Trust

Do not stare at me because I am burnt by the sun. My mothers sons were angry with me and made me take care of the vineyards, my own vineyard I had to even neglect. Songs 1:5-6

If you are looking for a way to learn to trust in a future relationship then start trusting others now with baby steps.

In this period of time working out in the sun and getting a darkened tan was considered to be unattractive and low statured. It implied that if you were dark you had to toil in the sun and do manual labor rather then work in the city at a high ranking official line of work. But in scripture it shows the example of being vulnerable in the relationship to be a healthy step of establishing trust. Maybe it will be larger or maybe as small as the lady who was embarrassed by her bad tan. 

No matter where you are in your stage of life you can begin to treat this season as preparation for the future to come. There is never a lull but rather training grounds. When the day comes that you do meet someone or you move forward you will have had an entire season of life dedicated to growing your character to a fine perfume. 

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